In addition to my personal thoughts on friendships this week, this has come up frequently in professional conversations. Another thing I've noticed about this is how anxious or agitated the person discussing the problem has been, and how I've felt when I've had a little outburst. This leads me straight to the article's title. Be in the company of individuals who make you feel your best, and they will reciprocate by acting in a way that makes others feel their best.
Here are some of my thoughts, then:
t's good to accept compliments politely: Please consider it from the giver's perspective, even though I know that many people find this difficult (except from when they are "fishing"). There's no need to commend someone. They'd like to. You only need to acknowledge them with a simple "Thank you, that's very kind." The objections may give the impression that you are vying for more, but they are actually a rejection of other people's generosity. Why would you wish to prevent someone from showing kindness? Isn't a more compassionate world a better place?
Make an attempt if you haven't seen someone in a long time: It's possible that a buddy of yours who is always planning events hasn't communicated in a long time. Nothing will prevent you from contacting them directly. They will frequently be happy that you made an effort (in my experience, the "organisers" start to worry that they won't be invited if they didn't plan; thus, if that's not the case, a small gesture goes a long way).
Awkwardness is not a pleasant situation to put anyone in, and clarity helps to avoid it. Simply inquire instead of assuming! As I prepare for my wedding, I'm currently receiving a little taste of my own medicine because I've done my fair share of etiquette blunders in the past. However, I've learnt from my past experience that when it comes to organizing anything, it's crucial to be clear about your aims and to maintain an open mind to those who may know more than I do. This includes the "Call to action" regarding the reply or how to contact you with any questions. In exchange, as a respondent, if you have any questions or even if you want to object, please ask rather than assume. If you are aware of the RSVP deadline, please do not wait to be contacted. Planning an event requires a lot of work (and frequently money), so people won't take decisions like "please wear x" or "we regretfully are not including children" lightly. Assuming that this is true for everyone but you places the burden of rejection on the organizer, making them feel even worse. Regarding responding promptly, it's one thing to be pursued (which occurs), but it's quite another to laugh about it! Just let them know if you need extra time.
Be kind to others. I've handled a lot of customer requests as a manager of a consumer-facing company; some were rather kind, while others weren't. I would feel much more accommodating to individuals who were courteous and had read the "terms and conditions" carefully. I wouldn't feel that way about those who made demands instead of asking. Thus, I adopted the "tit for tat" strategy. If it were up to me, I would definitely assist if you were kind; if not, I would cite the regulations. Maybe I am overly sensitive to other people's behavior, but I know that if I had been as kind as possible and got a rude response in return, I would have been upset, and I've come to realize that this also applies to me personally. I will cease being pleasant to people if I receive little in return, and I frequently feel very pressured, which I may then transmit to those around me. As a result, I have decided to stop worrying about those who might unintentionally influence how I behave with other people.
Be grateful for what you have; sometimes you may have it so frequently that you forget that others do not. I am fortunate to be surrounded by so many amazing individuals, including my fiance, as I have stated in numerous other postings. I've recently concluded that my fiancé is quite supportive after thinking back on past relationships I've seen. He and I collaborate as a team, and hopefully I do the same. This entails relocating my parents and configuring their wifi, TV, and other devices. I've been slack in acknowledging this because I'm fortunate enough to live with it frequently, but that has recently changed.
Humans are amazing, precious creatures with limitless potential for both good and evil. Spend time with people that make you feel your best self, and return the favor by doing the same for them: Point 5 applies to everyone. I had a great time with several buddies just last night. I had a wonderful supper, lots of fun, and wonderful company. I know some nice folks at work, and last weekend was no different. "That was so nice" is what I think when I get home, and I hope they feel the same way about me. Their business doesn't necessarily increase my intelligence, wealth, or have any other tangible effects on me. However, it makes me happy. It makes me say "this is good" when I look at my little piece of the globe. It can also inspire me to give someone a compliment, let them out in traffic, or get in touch with someone I haven't seen in a long time (and thank them for everything they do for me). To put it briefly, they make me feel my best.
As I've stated numerous times this week, not everything will be sunshine and roses. If you notice that someone is making you feel anxious, try changing your surroundings or your perspective. In the end, you are in charge of your own actions and emotions; you cannot expect to alter those of others. It's also not your place to force others to share your beliefs; if they don't and there is no room for compromise on either side, maybe that relationship wasn't meant to be. The tension that results from trying to alter each other is unhealthy for both of you and those around you.
However, if you are with individuals who make you feel good and you can reciprocate that feeling, that is a great beginning for a relationship that is even more than "good"; you will both grow even more. Achieving better than ok is the main goal of positive psychology.
It is only possible to radiate positivity outward from within if that is your desire and you or those around you are impeding it, either by the behaviors I mentioned above or by others. Only you can take action.
Here are some of my thoughts, then:
t's good to accept compliments politely: Please consider it from the giver's perspective, even though I know that many people find this difficult (except from when they are "fishing"). There's no need to commend someone. They'd like to. You only need to acknowledge them with a simple "Thank you, that's very kind." The objections may give the impression that you are vying for more, but they are actually a rejection of other people's generosity. Why would you wish to prevent someone from showing kindness? Isn't a more compassionate world a better place?
Make an attempt if you haven't seen someone in a long time: It's possible that a buddy of yours who is always planning events hasn't communicated in a long time. Nothing will prevent you from contacting them directly. They will frequently be happy that you made an effort (in my experience, the "organisers" start to worry that they won't be invited if they didn't plan; thus, if that's not the case, a small gesture goes a long way).
Awkwardness is not a pleasant situation to put anyone in, and clarity helps to avoid it. Simply inquire instead of assuming! As I prepare for my wedding, I'm currently receiving a little taste of my own medicine because I've done my fair share of etiquette blunders in the past. However, I've learnt from my past experience that when it comes to organizing anything, it's crucial to be clear about your aims and to maintain an open mind to those who may know more than I do. This includes the "Call to action" regarding the reply or how to contact you with any questions. In exchange, as a respondent, if you have any questions or even if you want to object, please ask rather than assume. If you are aware of the RSVP deadline, please do not wait to be contacted. Planning an event requires a lot of work (and frequently money), so people won't take decisions like "please wear x" or "we regretfully are not including children" lightly. Assuming that this is true for everyone but you places the burden of rejection on the organizer, making them feel even worse. Regarding responding promptly, it's one thing to be pursued (which occurs), but it's quite another to laugh about it! Just let them know if you need extra time.
Be kind to others. I've handled a lot of customer requests as a manager of a consumer-facing company; some were rather kind, while others weren't. I would feel much more accommodating to individuals who were courteous and had read the "terms and conditions" carefully. I wouldn't feel that way about those who made demands instead of asking. Thus, I adopted the "tit for tat" strategy. If it were up to me, I would definitely assist if you were kind; if not, I would cite the regulations. Maybe I am overly sensitive to other people's behavior, but I know that if I had been as kind as possible and got a rude response in return, I would have been upset, and I've come to realize that this also applies to me personally. I will cease being pleasant to people if I receive little in return, and I frequently feel very pressured, which I may then transmit to those around me. As a result, I have decided to stop worrying about those who might unintentionally influence how I behave with other people.
Be grateful for what you have; sometimes you may have it so frequently that you forget that others do not. I am fortunate to be surrounded by so many amazing individuals, including my fiance, as I have stated in numerous other postings. I've recently concluded that my fiancé is quite supportive after thinking back on past relationships I've seen. He and I collaborate as a team, and hopefully I do the same. This entails relocating my parents and configuring their wifi, TV, and other devices. I've been slack in acknowledging this because I'm fortunate enough to live with it frequently, but that has recently changed.
Humans are amazing, precious creatures with limitless potential for both good and evil. Spend time with people that make you feel your best self, and return the favor by doing the same for them: Point 5 applies to everyone. I had a great time with several buddies just last night. I had a wonderful supper, lots of fun, and wonderful company. I know some nice folks at work, and last weekend was no different. "That was so nice" is what I think when I get home, and I hope they feel the same way about me. Their business doesn't necessarily increase my intelligence, wealth, or have any other tangible effects on me. However, it makes me happy. It makes me say "this is good" when I look at my little piece of the globe. It can also inspire me to give someone a compliment, let them out in traffic, or get in touch with someone I haven't seen in a long time (and thank them for everything they do for me). To put it briefly, they make me feel my best.
As I've stated numerous times this week, not everything will be sunshine and roses. If you notice that someone is making you feel anxious, try changing your surroundings or your perspective. In the end, you are in charge of your own actions and emotions; you cannot expect to alter those of others. It's also not your place to force others to share your beliefs; if they don't and there is no room for compromise on either side, maybe that relationship wasn't meant to be. The tension that results from trying to alter each other is unhealthy for both of you and those around you.
However, if you are with individuals who make you feel good and you can reciprocate that feeling, that is a great beginning for a relationship that is even more than "good"; you will both grow even more. Achieving better than ok is the main goal of positive psychology.
It is only possible to radiate positivity outward from within if that is your desire and you or those around you are impeding it, either by the behaviors I mentioned above or by others. Only you can take action.
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